10 WAYS TO TELL HES CHEATING!

Okay ladies, if you haven’t noticed…the trending topic this week is lying and cheating. Yesterday, the Bossip team posed a question to our lady readers asking if they would stay with a man who cheats. But how do you know he does if you haven’t caught him in the act? As we all know, men have a tendency to sweet talk their ladies into believing they are more than faithful when, in truth, he’s a cheating ass. As always, women are inclined to give their guy the benefit of the doubt and chalk up our gut feelings to being overly suspicious. Couple that with the conversation
you had with homeboy confronting his sketchy behavior when he hit you with the “you trippin’ I would never do that to you” or “those are your insecurities,” and suddenly you’re convinced…”I am trippin’.” But ladies, read the signs! If you have the feeling of unrest or suspicion, pay close attention because there are behavioral patterns that point to infidelity
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1.) Senseless Arguments – every couple bickers and nags occasionally, that comes with the territory. However, if your guys seems to get overly irritated at things that haven’t been a problem but suddenly he can’t stand that you don’t put the cap on the toothpaste, something’s up.
2.) Frequently Threatens to Bail – this behavior can be coupled with No.1, if your guy threatens to leave the relationship every time you argue over foolish nothings, he’s looking for an out. For example, if your guy fusses over the toothpaste and he says “you know what, maybe this isn’t working,” or “I think we need a break,” you already know what it is.
3.) Frequent Late Nights – if at one time you could expect your man to reach out or come home at a certain time, and the entire routine of your union unravels and comes to a screeching halt, this could be a sign. If your guy starts to keep late nights regularly, and is always out with one particular “boy” or “cousin,” chances are he’s seeing someone else.
4.) Random Overtime – to follow up on No. 3, overtime hours could also be a camouflage for those frequent late nights. If you always get that phone call around the time he normally comes to see you or comes home, and he tells you he’s “working late,” you may want to be concerned, especially if you can’t reach him for hours or until the following day.
5.) Spending Habits Change – one thing is true about a man: he will not be dishing out cash on more than one woman, period. If you guys used to paint the town red, with dinner and movie dates and take vacations but suddenly it stops, that’s a red flag. Of course if he’s saving for a house or taking on a personally funded project, then naturally the cash flow will be affected. But if he’s making excuses about why he can’t take you out, he may be spending his cash on someone else.
6.) Verbal Abuse – every relationship has their ups and downs, and at times hurtful things will be said. But if your man seems to be taking digs at you for no real reason and seems to find joy in hurting you, not only is he a douche bag, he’s probably a cheating one.
7.) He’s Suddenly a Gym Rat – if working out and getting ripped is a new found priority for your man but he’s never been a fan of the gym, be weary. If the two of you have put on a few good eating and sleeping pounds, but he just has to get rid of them, he may be seeing someone else. Those are fat deposits the both of you put on together, therefore, you should lose them together. If he’s hitting the gym without you, he’s probably doing some other things without you too.
8.) He Starts Asking Hypothetical Questions – “is it possible to love more than one person at a time?” is a question that is more than just hypothetical. If he’s asking these kinds of questions, he’s probably feeling some kind of way, maybe torn between his feelings for you and the other girl. Instead of answering the question, seek the reasoning behind the inquiry.
9.) Deletes Cellular Communication – if you’re the type to go through your man’s phone, and you notice that he hasn’t made or received a call or text for more than two days, he’s been deleting his history
and clearly has something to hide. If he’s deleting, he’s cheating.
10.) Condoms – if you have been in a lengthy relationship with a man, more often than not, birth control pills are the contraceptive of choice. If you’re on the pill, but you start finding condoms in your guy’s pockets and wallets, you should know he’s either sleeping with another girl or trying to. And, you should start using them with him, pills don’t shield disease
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Single n Free

Okay so for those who know me.. n the REAL me ... yall know I was in a recent "relationship", which sooner rather than later turned, to, a "relationshit!"-DC;) I was feelin the conversations, he had jokes for dayss... so u know im a sucka for a man who can make me laugh... & there was a level of comfort with him that I never really had with anyone else. There were no initinal RED FLAGS. But there was somethin there-- lerking deep in those ligh brown/hazle eyes.. So things are intense at this point..& mind you im a class lady so we kept our first kiss till the 3rd date. & what a kiss that was. That is somethin that ima tell my grand kids (if i ever have/adopt any) We stood there in the subway station n it was raining outside.. he pulled me close n we kissed n ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ *SPARKSSSSSS* fa real.. he shocked me on my mouth. LOL so that was my downfall... that spark is the reason i got hooked, sprung, goo goo gaa gaa... LOL anyways I sure was feeliin him. & he was right there always. .....or so it seemed but things are never what they seem. Soon the phone calls never happened.. his texts got shorter, those one worded kinda texts.. & oo hhh i should let my readers know... Im a lady in the streets but a ***** in tha sheetz so his mom didn't take that much of a likin to me lol.. Yeah we had a "fall out" you can say.....so anyways..HE just began to put little to no effort into the "relationship" & eventually, after gettin tired of makin excsuses for him...I WALKED AWAY. Today is that day :D & I have to say im not that upset by it(much).. yes my ego n trust are brused a lil.. but, nothing a good day at Holts&Tiffanys, with some awsome friends, a tub of Ben & Jerrys, & great movies like Bridgit Jones Diary.Mr&Mrs Smith.&Serendipity I will be back to my old Sexy FIERCE DIVA self... ;) ... Im single n free back on tha prowl, I thought it was worth it.... iiunno how..... ;)

She Said: Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

Okay ladies, we’ve all been in a relationship that had us questioning a man’s commitment. Whether it’s those random phone calls in which he has to leave the room to take, or the “friend” that he sees every once in a while that has you wondering if what he’s saying is true. Women often give their significant other the benefit of the doubt until that red flag starts to bleed. But more often than not, the signs were there all along, but it wasn’t until he was undeniably caught in the act that you take a step back and reevaluate your coupledom, and ask yourself that question: Should I stay, or should I go? This is no easy task, especially if you share children and/or living space, but is it worth the heartache and drama?

Some good positive advise.

When your on your way to the next level in your life, people around you won't or just dont want to understand what your doing, and HATE or JUDGE. When instead it should be the other way around, they should be happy for you and CONGRADULATING YOU. GOD IS GOOD.... life is too short to sweat the small stuff. Enjoy each moment! All we have is right now! SMILE!

Dont worry be happy!

If things arent going your way right now

dont worry, because everybody goes through hard times

just keep your head up and just know that

things will turn into your favor in the end.

DONT DEPEND ON PEOPLE!!!

DO YOU, and if you need a lil help

dont be afraid to ask for help

Just make sure you know where your head is and,

GET YOUR SHIT DONE

SO NOONE IS TOO BLAME

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Does His or Her Size Matter?

YES YES YES! Do not let any one tell you different, they are lieing to save their face or your feelings. ( sry;) )You can not have a 2 inch dick & "fuck a bitch 2 inches from life". (that's a stretch!)

& the same goes for the ladies.... how is your loose pumpum gonna keep your dudes soldier standing at attention?! .... Its not! So, please believe .. if your "shit" aint tight & right... better luck next life!

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VIXEN MANUALS IS OUT!

Ladies, if you’re looking for that little edge on how to get your game on point to snag that special nucca, look no further than Superhead’s new book: THE VIXEN MANUALS

Former rap video vixen Karrine Steffans is gearing up for the release of her new book, The Vixen Manual: How To Find, Seduce, & Keep The Man You Want for this summer.
Unlike her first two memoirs – The New York Times best sellers Confessions of a Video Vixen and The Vixen Diaries -the new book will serve as a guide for obtaining and maintaining a successful relationship.

The book is broken into five parts, “Being Single,” “How To Attract Him,” “How To Engage Him,” “How To Release Him” and “Maybe It’s You.” Steffans, who is known for her exploits with various rap superstars, also includes an illustrated chapter filled with sexual positions.

HERES A CHAPTER AND SOME TIPS FOR YALL! ENJOY!

Chapter one: Single vs. singular

So you’re a single girl. You’re Mary Tyler Moore, throwing your hat up into the air, thinking you’re gonna make it after all. Maybe you’re Laverne (or Shirley), skipping down the sidewalk, determined to make your dreams come true … doing it your way. Hell, maybe you’re even Samantha Jones, the outspoken PR maven and sexual libertine from “Sex and the City,” sleeping with every available man, and occasional woman, who crosses your path. Whatever the case, honey, you’re single, and no matter what your theme song is, it has the potential to suck.
Odds are you’re also singular, which is pretty easy to be when you’re not in a relationship. You define yourself by setting your own boundaries, doing what you want whenever you want, mistress of all you survey within your domain. There’s no one to answer to, no feelings to consider. When a relationship enters the picture, however, it has the potential to change everything, including the singular dynamic. It becomes much more difficult — at times, nearly impossible — to focus only on yourself, but that doesn’t mean you have to give up your identity. One of the primary keys to a healthy relationship is for both of you, though no longer single, to remain singular. There’s a fine line between being in a relationship and being absorbed by one, and that’s what will happen if you’re not sure of yourself as an individual first.

As a nurturer, I have the tendency to covet and consume my mates. For most of my life, I have believed in the now-comical mantra, You complete me. So there I was, looking for a man to complete me, giving him all of me in the hopes he would return the favor and make his every waking breath my own. With each boyfriend, I wanted to go where he went and do what he did, and I would make myself available day and night, without compromise. In one of my more intense relationships, I even canceled sections of my first book tour to follow my lover as he traveled the country. I was a no-show at Temple University and several other prestigious higher learning establishments, skipping speaking engagements just to be “completed” by him. He was a nocturnal creature and, though I cherished my sleep, I would force myself to stay awake in the wee hours of the morning to be with him, forsaking rest and comfort. I would hop atop his kitchen counter at four in the morning as he juiced fresh, organic vegetables and fruits and would never share in the nectar. I’d watch him drink. I just wanted to be near him. I just wanted to be “completed.”
I lost myself in him and, ironically, began to resent him because he had his own life and I didn’t! He didn’t complete me after all! We even made a funny little saying that wound up not being the slightest bit funny: “You deplete me.” That, ladies, is the sum of all parts when you cease being a singular individual before, and especially after, you are no longer single.

Vixen Tip

For me, it’s always been difficult to not become absorbed by my relationship. It takes an enormous amount of effort to stay on track and to live my life as if there weren’t this hunky piece of man flesh laying in my bed just begging to be ravished. The only way to keep on track is to write out a schedule and stick to it every day, no matter how difficult it may be to leave his side. Make certain things rituals; wake up, make the bed, take the kids to school, go for a walk, shower, and head to the office. For those of us who work at home, it is twice as difficult to concentrate, which makes having a schedule even more important. What has worked for me is to save most of the personal time for after business hours, after I have completed everything on my list for the day, everything from tidying the house to running an office. Take care of yourself first and, trust me, he’ll be there when you’re done. But, to ensure this, make sure you don’t become so self-absorbed that you forget to schedule lots of time for him, as well.

Of course, being a single woman can be fun, especially when it’s done on your own terms. There’s something very fulfilling about not needing a man to buy your drinks, take you shopping, and show you a good time. Still, even in your singleness, you can find yourself not being your own person, a singular woman. You may look for others to validate you by making you feel pretty, worthy, smart, or desirable. These are the feelings that should come from within. There’s an old saying along the lines of “If you don’t go within, you go without.” Giving others the ability to define how you view yourself means you’ve surrendered your power. By expecting others to give you what you need — dignity, pride, self-esteem, confidence — you become a hostage, subject to their whims and insecurities. You must learn to mine your own strengths, which you already possess in great abundance.
If you’re the type of woman who can’t bear the idea of leaving the house without being in the company of a gaggle of girlfriends, you’re not a singular individual. Men are attracted to a woman’s independence and strength. There’s nothing more magnetic to a man than seeing a woman confidently strutting by with a sense of purpose, not checking for who’s checking her out, because she’s apparently got somewhere to be, something to do — something that matters. It’s hard for a potential mate to see who you are when you’re lost in a cacophony of women, all of you laughing and huddling and talking over each other. This may seem communal and fun, even necessary at certain times, but make no mistake — it is not attractive, especially when your objective is to be viewed as an individual.
Eventually, most of us women tire of being single, always hanging out with the girls, meeting up for margaritas and club crawling, only to have to slink back home to an empty bed. We begin to long for the fulfillment of a relationship. This doesn’t have to mean we’re lonely, unable to be in the company of just ourselves. It simply means we no longer want to operate alone. Romantic companionship can be tremendously enriching, enhancing all areas of our lives, under the best circumstances. There’s something uniquely beautiful about Blockbuster nights under a fluffy duvet with someone special, our feet touching, our bodies entwined as we steal each other’s warmth. If only for a season, we all experience a very visceral need to couple, to be touched, and to at least feel loved. If it happens with enough repetition and mutuality, you may soon find that you’re no longer single. The trick, however, is to still be you. Even though you’ve found Mr. Wonderful, or just Mr. Seasonal, it’s important to remain singular and not get so lost in this wonderful (possibly seasonal) bliss that you disappear as an individual.
Make sure you have a strong understanding of who you are and what you stand for before you set out to be in a relationship. Know your singular self. The more you know about you, the better equipped you’ll be to participate in a healthy relationship, and you’ll be much less likely to tolerate what you don’t deserve.

HOPE YALL ENJOYED!!

Why Exgirlfriends??

Okay ladies, do you have a man, who has an ex, that he still communicates with? If so, how do you feel about it? At some point, you have to let the past be the past, right? And the whole principle behind the "ex" is supposed to be symbolic for a relationship that's over and done with, so why are they still talking? Or let's take it a step further, why do they still see each other? Some circumstances render obligatory communication and sightings, especially when there's a child or children involved. But aside from that, what is the ex's place in his life? Some men would call a woman insecure for even questioning his dealings with an ex, but is it insecurity, or just plain inappropriate and improper?

Put That On Everything Part 2

So, We left off at leaving the situation where it is, and not making it a big deal.

A couple weeks down the line now, this man proposes to you, and you get all happy and excited, and you do what any other happy and excited women would do. YOU SAY YES, HELLO!
All these plans start being made now, you plan to have a nice big wedding, in a nice carribean place, you start planning on saving for a house, and to start your family together.
So you just start thinking to yourself to just do one last little check before it s gets more serious then it already is. You check his phone and see these text messeages FROM ANOTHER GIRL, stating that she cant do this anymore. So you decide to call this girl and find out whats going on. And she lets you know that they've been talking for a while now. At this point your very ANGRY. You talk your "fiance" about it and he denies it at first until you give him the details, and then he FINALLY comes out and just says it was a mistake. A mistake?, I dont think so. You guyz come off the phone, and he doesnt call back nore does he call back for 4 days. Not even to see if his child is ok.

What would yall do if you ended up in this situation?

TREAT ME LIKE THE QUEEN THAT I AM--or i'll find someone else who will

TO THE LEFT TO THE LEFT..........................
aarrrghhH!!!!!! life is so complex as it is, why do women put ourselves out there and add on the unnecessary stress of relationships? If one is in a relationship act accordingly! I have a friend who has been dating this guy for a few months. Now he is very honest(sometimes too honest) so she asked him about carabanna. He just said he would be rollin out with his friends- & had no intention of havin her with him. She felt ways(who wouldent) but she brused it off-- and THOUGHT TO HERSELF"fine, if he wants to go with his boys ill go with my girls". & her courious nature is such-that she wondered if he would be dancing on females at carabanna. "Yes" he said. WHAT THEEEE??!!!..... why are u in a relationship if u wanna go n dance up on other girls, that is what u do when u are single. Not committed!.....ARRRGHHH.. so he has the nerve to call my girl out n say that when she goes clubbin/carabanna... she probablly dances with guys and its fine. He said FINE! Like it don't bother him? Not even a lil...? I mean... WTFFF... how do u have this beautiful, smart woman and not feel ways if she was grindin on a next dude?!. WOW... So now shes thinkin, ok dancing is one thing...but it MAY lead to other things. & he says ... sure it can but im not single so its a one two dance n then i never see the person aagain. Haveen't u danced with a dude a never saw him again?(YES-sure i have- BUT STILL --NEVER IN A RELATIONSHIP) ARRGHH she dosent know what to do--- she wants to be with him, give him his space n let him do his thing.... but is jelous... she dosent wanna share her man (in anyway) & why should she...eventually I have a feelin she aint gonna be havin it anymore... cuz the deeper u get into any relationship there are boundries set to not hurt or disrespect one another. & i feel if two ppl are in a relationship they shouldent be dancing on other ppl(among other things). I hope he will realize soon enough that compramise is very nessary to keep your partner happy. IT GOES BOTH WAYS PPL. DO TO YOUR LOVE, AS YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE DONE TO U.

Put That On Everything!

So, you're parents have tried everything to the best of their ability to ensure that you have a better life then what they had. They've tried everything in the book, from yelling, grounding for days, and even beatens. As the years go by and as you grow older, you watch as your mother and father get through life together(unlike other families who only have one parent), you like what you see and wish you can share that same type of life style when you are old enough to start on your own family. You eventually grow up into your 20's to be a successful career women. At this age your doing what any other women would be doing which is partying and looking for that right somebody. So eventually you do meet a guy, your feeling him, hes feeling you, and obviously then you want to start taking it more serious, then he does(cuz guyz are soo sometimish these days). So later down the line you become pregnant, and you have to work like crazy to make sure you have enough money for when the baby comes. Your pregnant so at times your gonna feel tired right?, so you let your "boyfriend" use the car sometimes so he can do his thing you know (I wonder who hes bringing up in the car lol). One day your feeling hungry, but not just anything your having a craving for mcdonalds, your "boyfriend" has the car so you call him and ask him if he can stop and buy it for you on his way there, and he has the nerve to tell you he can't do it. You dont get mad you decide to suck it up and just drop it because you dont want to argue. Everything is goin good now for the next few months(I think)
You guys have the baby now everyone is happy. Hes happy, your more happier then ever.

You continue to let you "boyfriend" use the car while your home watching the baby with nothing to do. So one particular day, you let him use the car, but now you need to use it, so you call him up to see how long he is going to be, and he has the nerve to start yelling at you saying " what do you want, why are you running me down, give me some space" So you just quickly try to explain to him why you were calling(like is it not your car, HELLO!)
You start crying ALOT, and tell somebody about it, and the advice they give you is "Dont chase after no man!"
So once again you drop it, and let it slide, and continue loving this man.

What would you do in this situation?!?!?!

give me your answers and tomrrow I will finish what happens next.

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Lust or Love, Part 2

Does lust outweigh love when it comes to building a relationship? That’s a timeless question because all men want a woman that’s nurturing and providing to the household but still want someone that’s gonna get you going in the bedroom on a consistent basis.
Sadly, most of time, it doesn’t happen so a decision has to be made. Financial stability, or getting my brains fuc*ed out. Dilemmas… Dilemmas… Dilemmas…

Eyecandy with head game and no job, or Plain Patty with a 401K and benefits and can take care of the household. What’s more important, the package or the candy or do they both have to be appealing?

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Is It Lust or Love?

Okay ladies, we've all had that guy we'd love to let go, but simply cannot because he puts it on you so good. Seldom do we find the guy who is well established, well equipped and faithful. In your head, you can think of so many reasons and ways you love this man, starting with his bedroom skills. But in other ways, he is no good for you. Maybe he has no ambition and is perfectly content with the dead end job he's been working for ions. Maybe in your heart you know he's not the one, and your family would be less than overjoyed to see you take the plunge with him. Is it because ultimately you know the "love" you share is forbidden and the thrill is in the rebellion? Can you work through detrimental differences because you love him so much, or do you know in your heart you two won't last? Can the relationship stand on its own without sex? Can you really picture yourself with this man outside of the bedroom? Or, simply put, does the physical trump sensical???

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