Song Of The Day!

HELLO

By: Beyonce

Oh!

Oh oh, oh oh oh oh......

I love to see you walk into the room

Body shining lighting up the place

And when you talk, everybody stops

Cause they know you know just what to say

And the way that you protect your friends

Baby, I respect you for that

And when you grow, you take everyone you love along

I love that you don't fly me away

Don't need to buy a diamond key to unlock my heart

You shelter my soul

You're my fire when I'm cold

I want you to know

You had me at hello

Hello

Hello

You had me at hello

Hello

Hello

It was many years ago

Baby when you

Stole my cool

Cause you had me at hello

Hello

Hello, oh oh oh oh oh

I get so excited when you travel with me

Baby, while I'm on my grind

And never would I ever let my hustle

Come between me and my family time

You keep me humble out of this hype

Cause you know there's more to life

If I need you, you will be here

You will make the sacrifice

Don't fly me away

Don't need to buy a diamond key to unlock my heart

You shelter my soul

You're my fire when I'm cold

Just want you to know

You had me at hello

Hello

Hello

You had me at hello

Hello

Hello

It was many years ago

Baby when you

Stole my cool

Cause you had me at hello

Hello

Hello, oh oh oh oh oh

Gotta feel you and be near you

You're the air that I breathe to survive

Gotta hold you, wanna show you

That without you my sun doesn't shine

You don't have to try so hard for me to love you

Boy, without you my life just ain't the same

You don't have to try so hard for me to love you

You had me at hello!

You had me at hello

Hello

Hello

You had me at hello

Hello

Hello

It was many years ago

Baby when you

Stole my cool

Cause you had me at hello

Hello

Hello, oh oh oh oh oh

It was many years ago

Baby when you

Stole my cool

You had me at hello

Hello

Friends with benefits

For some people,

a "friends with benefits" arrangement is simply a way to release sexual frustration. For others, it offers sexual companionship and affection, without the time and energy involved in a more serious love relationship.

"Friends with benefits" defines the relationship as physical, with no romantic strings attached. Of course, all relationships have strings attached - but in this type of arrangement you can't always tell what they are. If you're trying to decide whether you can handle this kind of arrangement, ask yourself these five questions:

1. Am I being honest with myself?

Your reasons for choosing a "friends with benefits" relationship are your own - just make sure you really understand what they are. Are you sure you don't want commitment, or are you just saying that because your partner isn't looking for a commitment? Are you really too busy to date, or are you simply afraid of getting hurt?

2. Am I being honest with my partner?

If you want to be "friends with benefits," you have to be completely honest in communicating that to your partner. Don't say "things are complicated." Don't say "I don't know what I want." Don't say "I'm confused." Those are all lies. You know what you want, and it's not that complicated: sex without a relationship or much responsibility or accountability. So just say, "I want sex without a relationship."

3. Is my partner being honest?

Of course, being honest with yourself and your partner doesn't completely absolve you of responsibility. Even if you're honest and clear about your intentions, your partner may continue to hope that one day you'll change your mind and be open to a committed relationship. It's easy to let yourself off the hook by saying you were honest.

4. Am I healthy?

Some people choose "friends with benefits" situations because they want to enjoy sex without the STD dangers that come with casual sex. The logic is that your partner is a friend, so you'll feel safer knowing their sexual history. But this false sense of security may end up putting you at even greater risk. Because you "know" your partner, you might become less careful about using condoms and birth control - yet "friends with benefits" situations are rarely monogamous.

5. Am I happy?

At the end of the day, no one can tell you whether you can handle being "friends with benefits." The best you can do is enter the relationship with honest, realistic expectations and keep constant tabs on how you're feeling. Being "friends with benefits" won't feel like the magic of real love - but if you're honest with yourself and your partner, it might still help you to be happy in the here-and-now.

Song Of The Day!

By: Deborah Cox

It’s your life

Thing may not always go right, for you

In those times

Just leave it behind

Cause sometimes you gotta play the game

Just to survive

Without losing yourself

It’s a fight, it’s true

It takes time

Don’t have all the answers

No matter how hard it gets

Hold on to what’s inside

[CHORUS]

Don’t never let nobody bring you down girl

Don’t never let nobody tear your world apart

Look in the mirror and see who you are

Beautiful U R

In the dark

The paint chips have waited your heart

So deep

Can’t you see

See the light in the distance

Open up your eyes, look, look to the sky

And believe

There’s much more to life when you free

That’s the key

And in time

You will find all the answers

Don’t have to loose your pride

Hold on to what’s inside

[CHORUS]

Don’t never let nobody bring you down girl

Don’t never let nobody tear your world apart

Look in the mirror and see who you are

Beautiful U R

Don’t never let nobody bring you down girl

Don’t never let nobody tear your world apart

Look in the mirror and see who you are

Beautiful U R

Don’t care what they say anymore

There’s no time to be insecure

I leave it all at the door

She staring at him in the face

She’s taking it day by day

I’m finally on my way

[CHORUS]

Don’t never let nobody bring you down girl

Don’t never let nobody tear your world apart

Look in the mirror and see who you are

Beautiful U R

Don’t never let nobody bring you down girl

Don’t never let nobody tear your world apart

Look in the mirror and see who you are

Beautiful U R

Look at that bump!

CHRISTINA MILLIANS BABY BUMP!

OH AND I LUV THE SHOES!!!!

Song of the day! Its da weekend!!!!

"Run This Town"(feat. Rihanna, Kanye West)

[Intro - Rihanna]Feel it comin' in the air

And the screams from everywhere

I'm addicted to the thrill

It's a dangerous love affair

Can't be scared when it goes down

Got a problem, tell me now

Only thing that's on my mind

Is who's gonna run this town tonight...

Is who's gonna run this town tonight...

We gonna run this town

[Verse 1 - Jay-Z]

We areYeah I said it

We are

This is Roc Nation

Pledge your allegiance

Get y'all black tees on

All black everything

Black cards, black cars

All black everything

And our girls are blackbirds

Ridin' with they dillingers

I'd get more in depth

If you boys really real enough

This is la familia

I'll explain later

But for now let me get back to this paper

I'm a couple bands down and I'm tryin' to get back

I gave the other grip, I lost a flip for five stacks

Yeah I'm talkin' five commasix zerosdot zero

Here it go...Back to runnin' circles 'round niggas

Now we squared upHold up

[Chorus - Rihanna]

Life's a game but it's not fair

I break the rules so I don't care

So I keep doin' my own thing

Walkin' tall against the rain

Victory's within the mile

Almost there, don't give up now

Only thing that's on my mind

Is who's gonna run this town tonight

Hey-hey-hey-hey-hey-heyHey-hey-hey-hey-hey

Hey-hey-hey-hey-hey-hey

(Is who's gonna run this town tonight)

Hey-hey-hey-hey

[Verse 2 - Jay-Z]

We areYeah I said it

We areYou can call me Cesar

In a dark CzarPlease follow the leader

So Eric B. we are

Microphone fiend

It's the return of the god

Peace god...

(Auh! Auh!)

And ain't nobody fresher

I'm in Mason

(Ah!)

Martin Margiela

On the tape we're screamin'

Fuck the other side, they jealous

We got a bankhead full of broads(?)

They got a table full of fellas... (?)

And they ain't spending no cake

They should throw they hand in'Cause they ain't got no spades...

My whole team got dough

So my bankhead is lookin' like millionaire's 'fro

[Chorus - Rihanna]

Life's a game but it's not fair

I break the rules so I don't care

So I keep doin' my own thing

Walkin' tall against the rainVictory's within the mile

Almost there, don't give up now

Only thing that's on my mind

Is who's gonna run this town tonight

Hey-hey-hey-hey-hey-hey

Hey-hey-hey-hey-hey

Hey-hey-hey-hey-hey-hey

(Is who's gonna run this town tonight)

Hey-hey-hey-hey

[Verse 3 - Kanye West]

It's crazy how you can go from being Joe Blow

To everybody on your dick,

no homo

I bought my whole family whips, no Volvos

Next time I'm in church, please no photos

Police escorts

Everybody passports

This the life that everybody ask for

This a fast life

We are on a crash course

What you think I rap for

To push a fucking Rav 4?

But I know that if I stay stun-ting

All these girls only gonna want one thing

I could spend my whole life good will hunting

Only good gon' come is as good when I'm cumming

She got a ass that'll swallow up a g-string

And up top, unh...

Two bee stings

And I'm beasting

Off the riesling

And my nigga just made it out the precinct

We give a damn about the drama that you do bring

I'm just tryin' to change the color on your mood ring

ReebokBabyYou need to drop some new things

Have you ever had shoes without shoe strings?

What's that 'Ye?

Baby, these heelsIs that a may?

What?!Baby, these wheels

You trippin' when you ain't sippin'Have a refill

You feelin' like you runnin', huh?

Now you know how we feel

[Outro - Rihanna]

We gonna run this town tonight!

[Outro - Jay-Z]

Wassup!

Mind blowing ORGASM!

Fellas, did you know that most women know how to make themselves climax? Over the years, as a woman get to know her body she can pretty much make herself climax on cue. Not to say that’s it not enjoyable, but more often than not, it’s work for her too. Given the nature of most women, she doesn’t mind the work she has to put in to have an orgasm, but sometimes you should treat her to one! Fellas, you know you can get off when you get some head and all you have to do is lay there. Woman normally enjoy pleasing their men is this way, but are you reciprocating? Do you know how to make woman climax on your own without any of her help? Most men would say they can, but more often than not, she’s putting in some work! That’s not to say that it shouldn’t be a team effort, but if you can get her off before you bust, she’ll be mor
e than happy to return the favor! Check out these tips to give your woman the “Big O!”

1.) Patience is key – you have to have patience in order to give your woman the maximum amount of pleasure. Tension or anticipation is readable body language and comes through in your touch. If you’re relaxed and focused on pleasing her, she’ll relax as a result.

2.) Take the Lead – woman know what they want and what it takes to achieve the orgasm, and often times will shift into auto mode while engaging in the act. But every woman will allow her man to take the lead! Fellas, be vocal, tell her “no” if she tries to take control.

3.) Ease into the oral action – men should envision his woman’s flower as a precious gem, while you know where it lies the quest is an adventure! There are so many erogenous zones on a woman’s body so take your time exploring her body and pay attention to her bodily reactions so you’ll know where to grab or caress when she’s about to climax.

4.) French kiss it – remember the clitoris is extremely sensitive, so be gentle! What you shouldn’t do, is dive right into jack rabbit mode with your tongue. This could, quite possibly, quickly kill all pleasurable sensation and prematurely end the session due to clitoral over stimulation. For starters, you want to take your time and kiss the erogenous zone the same way you would passionately kiss her lips and mouth.

Communicate – don’t forget women are creatures of emotion, so they need to feel connected to you in some way. Dirty talk is good. Tell her how good she tastes and how much you love to please her. Tell her how she turns you on and how you’re going to make her climax.

6.) Use your hands – while you’re engaging in the oral play, remember the parts of her body that were sensitive to your touch as sensations are heightened on every part of the body at this point. Grab at her waist and thighs, this will let her know you’ve been paying attention and you were aiming to do one thing: please her!

7.) Make it happen – when you start to get the feeling she’s about to climax, whatever you do, don’t stop! In fact, it’s best you quicken the pace a bit and keep doing exactly what your doing, don’t switch anything up orally! At most, a little nipple play will do the trick. But you’ll know she’s about to explode when her hips start to jerk and her back arches, along with the heavy breathing. You know you’ve hit the spot when you get the emphatic “right there” and see some eye rolling.

where are your pasties or a bra hunny?!?!?

Fantasia Party?

So, for those of you who do not know what a fantasia party is, we are here to let yall know.

Basically lets just get to the point!, A fantasia party is a party where a women comes to your house, and she brings all these sex creams, sex toys, erotic massage oils, sex board games, all types of different things you never thought of. She teaches you how to use them, what they're for, also all the pleasures that you can get out of these and, she plays a couple of games also to make it alot more fun. When she is finished you go in a seperate room and you can buy which ever it is that caught you eye!.

You can host your own Fantasia Party. Its FREE, all you ave to do is keep you guests happy by buying the wine (or what ever it is you like to drink), the food and what ever else you enjoy having at parties.

The parties are sssoo hilarious and fun, you'll never get bored!

To find out more about Fantasia Parties you can go to the web site:

http://www.fantasia.ca/

ITS WELLL WORTH IT!

KELLY!!

Definately feeling this get up!!

Glam Girls!

LUVS IT!

SORRY!

Sorry yall! The divaz have been very bbuusssyyy these past couple of months, but don't worry we will be back in motion very soon. And ready to give yall the entertainment yall followed us for!!!

Thanks for being so patient!

Happy Birthday MJ

August 29 would have been Michael Jackson's 51st birthday, yet his tragic death prevented that from happening. The young performer was crowned the King of Pop and later became a living legend who was both talented and troubled. He experienced the greatest fame and fortune, but compulsiveness and insecurity tormented him for most of his life.

R.I.P

Feelin this get up.

Beyonce recieving women of the year award!

“Beyoncé is multi-platinum artist and a multi-talented woman who clearly embodies the qualities of excellence and achievement that the Billboard Woman Of The Year Award was created to honor,” said Bill Werde, Billboard’s Editorial Director, about Beyoncé, who is the only performer in the 51-year history of the Billboard Hot 100 to top the chart for 10 weeks or more with a group and as a solo artist. “She has not only influenced pop culture
with her hit songs and signature dance moves, but has inspired women everywhere with her unique style, business savvy and dedication to charitable causes.”

Rihanna out and about while chris was being sentenced!

I love the bracelet and the shoes!!

MY SONG OF THE DAY!

"Scared Of Lonely"

I'm in this fight, and I'm swinging and my arms are getting tired

It's hard, I'm trying to beat this emptiness but I'm running out of time

I'm sinking in the sand, and I can barely stand

I'm lost in this dream, I need you to hold me

I'm scared of lonely

I try to be patient, but I'm hurting deep inside

And I can't keep waiting, I need comfort late at night

And I can't find my way, won't you lead me home

Cause I'm lost in this dream, I need you to hold me

I'm scared of lonely

And I'm scared of being the only shadow I see along the wall

And I'm scared the only heartbeat I hear beating is my own

And I'm scared of being alone

I can't seem to breathe when I am lost in this dream, I need you to hold me

I'm scared of lonely

I'm scared of lonely.....I cry at night, 'cause my baby's too far to be by my side

To wipe away these tears of mine, so I hold my pillow tight

To imagine you would stretch your hand looking for mine'

Cause I'm lost in this dream , I need you to hold me

I'm scared of lonely

And I'm scared of being the only shadow I see along the wall

And I'm scared the only heartbeat I hear beating is my own

And I'm scared of being alone

I can't seem to breathe when I am lost in this dream, I need you to hold me

I need your strength when nobody is around'

Cause I'm tired of this emptiness, I think I'm drowningI can't be lonely no more

Cause I'm lost in this dream, I need you to hold me

I'm scared of lonely

And I'm scared of being the only shadow I see along the wall

And I'm scared the only heartbeat I hear beating is my own

And I'm scared of being alone

I can't seem to breathe when I am lost in this dream, I need you to hold me

I'm scared of lonely

I'm scared of lonely.....

I AM SOOO FEELING THIS SONG TODAY!

The 3 L's

LIVE.LOVE.LIFE.

Enjoy life, don't let nobody bring you down. Achieve everything thats needed to be achieved in your life. Don't take everything so serious, and don't be so hard on others. Live your life the way you want to live it. Laugh at all the small things. And all the big things, talk it through with someone and laugh later.Life is WAY to short to dweall on the small things.

When you see someone or something you dont like dont just judge right off the bat. I mean theres nothing wrong with stating your opinion at all, but people now a days get extra and feel the need to spread it around and gossip to everyone about it 24/7, sometimes you just have to learn to let things slide. State your opinion and keep it moving. Dont we have bigger and better things that we should be doing with our lives?

Its 2009 going on 2010
ITS TIME TO MAKE A CHANGE!


If You Wanna Make The WorldA Better Place
Take A Look At Yourself AndThen Make A Change
I'm Starting With The Man InThe Mirror
~MICHEAL JACKSON

I LOVE THESE PICTURES!!

3 Ways to handle lifes UNKNOWN

It may sound like a cliche, but uncertainty is a part of life. Even before these hard economic times, it was possible to unexpectedly lose a job, suffer a breakup or to get into an accident. That's because there are no guarantees in life!
As terrifying as that can seem, it's also what allows us to reach outside the status quo and shoot for the stars - even if the odds are stacked against us. We all create our own destinies, whether they come to us in exactly the form we're expecting, or not.

Try this three-step approach to tackling life's uncertainties:

1. You can't know everything

If we knew every single little thing awaiting us around the corner, life would be unbearably dull. Yet by changing the way you see life's curveballs, you can alter how you handle them. So, from now on, instead of worrying about events you can't foresee - or letting those that occur send you into a prolonged state of shock and immobility - try to see unexpected events as opportunities. Perhaps getting laid off will put you in a position to go back to school and find a job you like better - or make more money in. Maybe getting dumped is a chance to reconnect with yourself and your deepest desires, before finding a mate who is suited to a more fully realized you. Seemingly bad things often wind up teaching us valuable lessons and setting us on the paths we should have been on in the first place.
Likewise, even in "good" times, don't let fear of the unknown get in the way of going after your goals.

2. Best and worst

When faced with uncertain outcomes, many of us get paralyzed. After all, without knowing what to expect, it's best to keep a low profile and do nothing, right? Wrong! In times of flux (and any time, really), the best way to combat your anxiety is to be active. If you're having trouble knowing how to act in any given situation (say, whether to make a change or stay put), why not ask yourself the same questions about the alternative choice? What's the best that can happen if you do what you're considering and - and what's the worst? Now see how your answers compare.

3. Baby steps

Often we make the mistake of thinking that huge changes are required to make progress in life. Not so. In fact, by taking small, active steps toward a larger goal, we make achieving it more likely by giving ourselves the opportunity to reposition and regroup if things don't go our way. Whether it's trying a class before enrolling in a program, or asking for a raise before looking for a better-paying job in a field you're less interested in, one thing's for certain - doing nothing definitely won't get you where you want to go. Doing something just might make a difference.

She Said: Abuse, How Much is Too Much?

It’s not the easiest topic to discuss, but it’s not being talked about enough. The brutal reality is that victims of abuse are around us all the time. Though she may not wear the scars of physical manhandling, she may be suffering abuse that cuts just as deep as a blow to the jaw. Abuse comes in many forms, and unless outwardly obvious, it can be the culprit of unhealthy relationships. For some women, all it takes is a man to look like he has the potential to strike and it’s splitsville, forever. For others, it may not be as easy and, unfortunately, may lead to physical violence. But according to the women we spoke with, in order for one to stay in such a dangerous situation, more often than not, she’s been mentally beaten by verbal abuse so badly, she’s convinced she has nowhere to go. So, are there signs or red flags before arguments escalate to an unfair fight between a man and woman? How much is too much? When is it time to leave?

10 WAYS TO TELL HES CHEATING!

Okay ladies, if you haven’t noticed…the trending topic this week is lying and cheating. Yesterday, the Bossip team posed a question to our lady readers asking if they would stay with a man who cheats. But how do you know he does if you haven’t caught him in the act? As we all know, men have a tendency to sweet talk their ladies into believing they are more than faithful when, in truth, he’s a cheating ass. As always, women are inclined to give their guy the benefit of the doubt and chalk up our gut feelings to being overly suspicious. Couple that with the conversation
you had with homeboy confronting his sketchy behavior when he hit you with the “you trippin’ I would never do that to you” or “those are your insecurities,” and suddenly you’re convinced…”I am trippin’.” But ladies, read the signs! If you have the feeling of unrest or suspicion, pay close attention because there are behavioral patterns that point to infidelity
.
1.) Senseless Arguments – every couple bickers and nags occasionally, that comes with the territory. However, if your guys seems to get overly irritated at things that haven’t been a problem but suddenly he can’t stand that you don’t put the cap on the toothpaste, something’s up.
2.) Frequently Threatens to Bail – this behavior can be coupled with No.1, if your guy threatens to leave the relationship every time you argue over foolish nothings, he’s looking for an out. For example, if your guy fusses over the toothpaste and he says “you know what, maybe this isn’t working,” or “I think we need a break,” you already know what it is.
3.) Frequent Late Nights – if at one time you could expect your man to reach out or come home at a certain time, and the entire routine of your union unravels and comes to a screeching halt, this could be a sign. If your guy starts to keep late nights regularly, and is always out with one particular “boy” or “cousin,” chances are he’s seeing someone else.
4.) Random Overtime – to follow up on No. 3, overtime hours could also be a camouflage for those frequent late nights. If you always get that phone call around the time he normally comes to see you or comes home, and he tells you he’s “working late,” you may want to be concerned, especially if you can’t reach him for hours or until the following day.
5.) Spending Habits Change – one thing is true about a man: he will not be dishing out cash on more than one woman, period. If you guys used to paint the town red, with dinner and movie dates and take vacations but suddenly it stops, that’s a red flag. Of course if he’s saving for a house or taking on a personally funded project, then naturally the cash flow will be affected. But if he’s making excuses about why he can’t take you out, he may be spending his cash on someone else.
6.) Verbal Abuse – every relationship has their ups and downs, and at times hurtful things will be said. But if your man seems to be taking digs at you for no real reason and seems to find joy in hurting you, not only is he a douche bag, he’s probably a cheating one.
7.) He’s Suddenly a Gym Rat – if working out and getting ripped is a new found priority for your man but he’s never been a fan of the gym, be weary. If the two of you have put on a few good eating and sleeping pounds, but he just has to get rid of them, he may be seeing someone else. Those are fat deposits the both of you put on together, therefore, you should lose them together. If he’s hitting the gym without you, he’s probably doing some other things without you too.
8.) He Starts Asking Hypothetical Questions – “is it possible to love more than one person at a time?” is a question that is more than just hypothetical. If he’s asking these kinds of questions, he’s probably feeling some kind of way, maybe torn between his feelings for you and the other girl. Instead of answering the question, seek the reasoning behind the inquiry.
9.) Deletes Cellular Communication – if you’re the type to go through your man’s phone, and you notice that he hasn’t made or received a call or text for more than two days, he’s been deleting his history
and clearly has something to hide. If he’s deleting, he’s cheating.
10.) Condoms – if you have been in a lengthy relationship with a man, more often than not, birth control pills are the contraceptive of choice. If you’re on the pill, but you start finding condoms in your guy’s pockets and wallets, you should know he’s either sleeping with another girl or trying to. And, you should start using them with him, pills don’t shield disease
.

Single n Free

Okay so for those who know me.. n the REAL me ... yall know I was in a recent "relationship", which sooner rather than later turned, to, a "relationshit!"-DC;) I was feelin the conversations, he had jokes for dayss... so u know im a sucka for a man who can make me laugh... & there was a level of comfort with him that I never really had with anyone else. There were no initinal RED FLAGS. But there was somethin there-- lerking deep in those ligh brown/hazle eyes.. So things are intense at this point..& mind you im a class lady so we kept our first kiss till the 3rd date. & what a kiss that was. That is somethin that ima tell my grand kids (if i ever have/adopt any) We stood there in the subway station n it was raining outside.. he pulled me close n we kissed n ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ *SPARKSSSSSS* fa real.. he shocked me on my mouth. LOL so that was my downfall... that spark is the reason i got hooked, sprung, goo goo gaa gaa... LOL anyways I sure was feeliin him. & he was right there always. .....or so it seemed but things are never what they seem. Soon the phone calls never happened.. his texts got shorter, those one worded kinda texts.. & oo hhh i should let my readers know... Im a lady in the streets but a ***** in tha sheetz so his mom didn't take that much of a likin to me lol.. Yeah we had a "fall out" you can say.....so anyways..HE just began to put little to no effort into the "relationship" & eventually, after gettin tired of makin excsuses for him...I WALKED AWAY. Today is that day :D & I have to say im not that upset by it(much).. yes my ego n trust are brused a lil.. but, nothing a good day at Holts&Tiffanys, with some awsome friends, a tub of Ben & Jerrys, & great movies like Bridgit Jones Diary.Mr&Mrs Smith.&Serendipity I will be back to my old Sexy FIERCE DIVA self... ;) ... Im single n free back on tha prowl, I thought it was worth it.... iiunno how..... ;)

She Said: Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?

Okay ladies, we’ve all been in a relationship that had us questioning a man’s commitment. Whether it’s those random phone calls in which he has to leave the room to take, or the “friend” that he sees every once in a while that has you wondering if what he’s saying is true. Women often give their significant other the benefit of the doubt until that red flag starts to bleed. But more often than not, the signs were there all along, but it wasn’t until he was undeniably caught in the act that you take a step back and reevaluate your coupledom, and ask yourself that question: Should I stay, or should I go? This is no easy task, especially if you share children and/or living space, but is it worth the heartache and drama?

Some good positive advise.

When your on your way to the next level in your life, people around you won't or just dont want to understand what your doing, and HATE or JUDGE. When instead it should be the other way around, they should be happy for you and CONGRADULATING YOU. GOD IS GOOD.... life is too short to sweat the small stuff. Enjoy each moment! All we have is right now! SMILE!

Dont worry be happy!

If things arent going your way right now

dont worry, because everybody goes through hard times

just keep your head up and just know that

things will turn into your favor in the end.

DONT DEPEND ON PEOPLE!!!

DO YOU, and if you need a lil help

dont be afraid to ask for help

Just make sure you know where your head is and,

GET YOUR SHIT DONE

SO NOONE IS TOO BLAME

"Ladies, we have to be healthy,fit,and FABULOUS. this is the only body we have, so love it,take care of it and most importantly be proud of YOUR BODY!" ~Tocarra~

The Beyonce I am...Yours Tour!!!

ENJOY THE PICS!!!

YESS YALL THE DIVAZ WERE THERE IN FULL EFFECT!!!

AND THE #1 DIVA WAS THERE WORKING THE STAGE AS USUAL!!

HOLLAA!!!!!

Does His or Her Size Matter?

YES YES YES! Do not let any one tell you different, they are lieing to save their face or your feelings. ( sry;) )You can not have a 2 inch dick & "fuck a bitch 2 inches from life". (that's a stretch!)

& the same goes for the ladies.... how is your loose pumpum gonna keep your dudes soldier standing at attention?! .... Its not! So, please believe .. if your "shit" aint tight & right... better luck next life!

HOTTEST TOUR!

The hottest diva will be in toronto, and doing what she does best which is performing her greatest hits at the Molson Ampitheatre this monday july 20th!!!!

She'll be gone a while so i hope everyone has there tickets up!!!

VIXEN MANUALS IS OUT!

Ladies, if you’re looking for that little edge on how to get your game on point to snag that special nucca, look no further than Superhead’s new book: THE VIXEN MANUALS

Former rap video vixen Karrine Steffans is gearing up for the release of her new book, The Vixen Manual: How To Find, Seduce, & Keep The Man You Want for this summer.
Unlike her first two memoirs – The New York Times best sellers Confessions of a Video Vixen and The Vixen Diaries -the new book will serve as a guide for obtaining and maintaining a successful relationship.

The book is broken into five parts, “Being Single,” “How To Attract Him,” “How To Engage Him,” “How To Release Him” and “Maybe It’s You.” Steffans, who is known for her exploits with various rap superstars, also includes an illustrated chapter filled with sexual positions.

HERES A CHAPTER AND SOME TIPS FOR YALL! ENJOY!

Chapter one: Single vs. singular

So you’re a single girl. You’re Mary Tyler Moore, throwing your hat up into the air, thinking you’re gonna make it after all. Maybe you’re Laverne (or Shirley), skipping down the sidewalk, determined to make your dreams come true … doing it your way. Hell, maybe you’re even Samantha Jones, the outspoken PR maven and sexual libertine from “Sex and the City,” sleeping with every available man, and occasional woman, who crosses your path. Whatever the case, honey, you’re single, and no matter what your theme song is, it has the potential to suck.
Odds are you’re also singular, which is pretty easy to be when you’re not in a relationship. You define yourself by setting your own boundaries, doing what you want whenever you want, mistress of all you survey within your domain. There’s no one to answer to, no feelings to consider. When a relationship enters the picture, however, it has the potential to change everything, including the singular dynamic. It becomes much more difficult — at times, nearly impossible — to focus only on yourself, but that doesn’t mean you have to give up your identity. One of the primary keys to a healthy relationship is for both of you, though no longer single, to remain singular. There’s a fine line between being in a relationship and being absorbed by one, and that’s what will happen if you’re not sure of yourself as an individual first.

As a nurturer, I have the tendency to covet and consume my mates. For most of my life, I have believed in the now-comical mantra, You complete me. So there I was, looking for a man to complete me, giving him all of me in the hopes he would return the favor and make his every waking breath my own. With each boyfriend, I wanted to go where he went and do what he did, and I would make myself available day and night, without compromise. In one of my more intense relationships, I even canceled sections of my first book tour to follow my lover as he traveled the country. I was a no-show at Temple University and several other prestigious higher learning establishments, skipping speaking engagements just to be “completed” by him. He was a nocturnal creature and, though I cherished my sleep, I would force myself to stay awake in the wee hours of the morning to be with him, forsaking rest and comfort. I would hop atop his kitchen counter at four in the morning as he juiced fresh, organic vegetables and fruits and would never share in the nectar. I’d watch him drink. I just wanted to be near him. I just wanted to be “completed.”
I lost myself in him and, ironically, began to resent him because he had his own life and I didn’t! He didn’t complete me after all! We even made a funny little saying that wound up not being the slightest bit funny: “You deplete me.” That, ladies, is the sum of all parts when you cease being a singular individual before, and especially after, you are no longer single.

Vixen Tip

For me, it’s always been difficult to not become absorbed by my relationship. It takes an enormous amount of effort to stay on track and to live my life as if there weren’t this hunky piece of man flesh laying in my bed just begging to be ravished. The only way to keep on track is to write out a schedule and stick to it every day, no matter how difficult it may be to leave his side. Make certain things rituals; wake up, make the bed, take the kids to school, go for a walk, shower, and head to the office. For those of us who work at home, it is twice as difficult to concentrate, which makes having a schedule even more important. What has worked for me is to save most of the personal time for after business hours, after I have completed everything on my list for the day, everything from tidying the house to running an office. Take care of yourself first and, trust me, he’ll be there when you’re done. But, to ensure this, make sure you don’t become so self-absorbed that you forget to schedule lots of time for him, as well.

Of course, being a single woman can be fun, especially when it’s done on your own terms. There’s something very fulfilling about not needing a man to buy your drinks, take you shopping, and show you a good time. Still, even in your singleness, you can find yourself not being your own person, a singular woman. You may look for others to validate you by making you feel pretty, worthy, smart, or desirable. These are the feelings that should come from within. There’s an old saying along the lines of “If you don’t go within, you go without.” Giving others the ability to define how you view yourself means you’ve surrendered your power. By expecting others to give you what you need — dignity, pride, self-esteem, confidence — you become a hostage, subject to their whims and insecurities. You must learn to mine your own strengths, which you already possess in great abundance.
If you’re the type of woman who can’t bear the idea of leaving the house without being in the company of a gaggle of girlfriends, you’re not a singular individual. Men are attracted to a woman’s independence and strength. There’s nothing more magnetic to a man than seeing a woman confidently strutting by with a sense of purpose, not checking for who’s checking her out, because she’s apparently got somewhere to be, something to do — something that matters. It’s hard for a potential mate to see who you are when you’re lost in a cacophony of women, all of you laughing and huddling and talking over each other. This may seem communal and fun, even necessary at certain times, but make no mistake — it is not attractive, especially when your objective is to be viewed as an individual.
Eventually, most of us women tire of being single, always hanging out with the girls, meeting up for margaritas and club crawling, only to have to slink back home to an empty bed. We begin to long for the fulfillment of a relationship. This doesn’t have to mean we’re lonely, unable to be in the company of just ourselves. It simply means we no longer want to operate alone. Romantic companionship can be tremendously enriching, enhancing all areas of our lives, under the best circumstances. There’s something uniquely beautiful about Blockbuster nights under a fluffy duvet with someone special, our feet touching, our bodies entwined as we steal each other’s warmth. If only for a season, we all experience a very visceral need to couple, to be touched, and to at least feel loved. If it happens with enough repetition and mutuality, you may soon find that you’re no longer single. The trick, however, is to still be you. Even though you’ve found Mr. Wonderful, or just Mr. Seasonal, it’s important to remain singular and not get so lost in this wonderful (possibly seasonal) bliss that you disappear as an individual.
Make sure you have a strong understanding of who you are and what you stand for before you set out to be in a relationship. Know your singular self. The more you know about you, the better equipped you’ll be to participate in a healthy relationship, and you’ll be much less likely to tolerate what you don’t deserve.

HOPE YALL ENJOYED!!

Why Exgirlfriends??

Okay ladies, do you have a man, who has an ex, that he still communicates with? If so, how do you feel about it? At some point, you have to let the past be the past, right? And the whole principle behind the "ex" is supposed to be symbolic for a relationship that's over and done with, so why are they still talking? Or let's take it a step further, why do they still see each other? Some circumstances render obligatory communication and sightings, especially when there's a child or children involved. But aside from that, what is the ex's place in his life? Some men would call a woman insecure for even questioning his dealings with an ex, but is it insecurity, or just plain inappropriate and improper?

Put That On Everything Part 2

So, We left off at leaving the situation where it is, and not making it a big deal.

A couple weeks down the line now, this man proposes to you, and you get all happy and excited, and you do what any other happy and excited women would do. YOU SAY YES, HELLO!
All these plans start being made now, you plan to have a nice big wedding, in a nice carribean place, you start planning on saving for a house, and to start your family together.
So you just start thinking to yourself to just do one last little check before it s gets more serious then it already is. You check his phone and see these text messeages FROM ANOTHER GIRL, stating that she cant do this anymore. So you decide to call this girl and find out whats going on. And she lets you know that they've been talking for a while now. At this point your very ANGRY. You talk your "fiance" about it and he denies it at first until you give him the details, and then he FINALLY comes out and just says it was a mistake. A mistake?, I dont think so. You guyz come off the phone, and he doesnt call back nore does he call back for 4 days. Not even to see if his child is ok.

What would yall do if you ended up in this situation?

TREAT ME LIKE THE QUEEN THAT I AM--or i'll find someone else who will

TO THE LEFT TO THE LEFT..........................
aarrrghhH!!!!!! life is so complex as it is, why do women put ourselves out there and add on the unnecessary stress of relationships? If one is in a relationship act accordingly! I have a friend who has been dating this guy for a few months. Now he is very honest(sometimes too honest) so she asked him about carabanna. He just said he would be rollin out with his friends- & had no intention of havin her with him. She felt ways(who wouldent) but she brused it off-- and THOUGHT TO HERSELF"fine, if he wants to go with his boys ill go with my girls". & her courious nature is such-that she wondered if he would be dancing on females at carabanna. "Yes" he said. WHAT THEEEE??!!!..... why are u in a relationship if u wanna go n dance up on other girls, that is what u do when u are single. Not committed!.....ARRRGHHH.. so he has the nerve to call my girl out n say that when she goes clubbin/carabanna... she probablly dances with guys and its fine. He said FINE! Like it don't bother him? Not even a lil...? I mean... WTFFF... how do u have this beautiful, smart woman and not feel ways if she was grindin on a next dude?!. WOW... So now shes thinkin, ok dancing is one thing...but it MAY lead to other things. & he says ... sure it can but im not single so its a one two dance n then i never see the person aagain. Haveen't u danced with a dude a never saw him again?(YES-sure i have- BUT STILL --NEVER IN A RELATIONSHIP) ARRGHH she dosent know what to do--- she wants to be with him, give him his space n let him do his thing.... but is jelous... she dosent wanna share her man (in anyway) & why should she...eventually I have a feelin she aint gonna be havin it anymore... cuz the deeper u get into any relationship there are boundries set to not hurt or disrespect one another. & i feel if two ppl are in a relationship they shouldent be dancing on other ppl(among other things). I hope he will realize soon enough that compramise is very nessary to keep your partner happy. IT GOES BOTH WAYS PPL. DO TO YOUR LOVE, AS YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE DONE TO U.

Put That On Everything!

So, you're parents have tried everything to the best of their ability to ensure that you have a better life then what they had. They've tried everything in the book, from yelling, grounding for days, and even beatens. As the years go by and as you grow older, you watch as your mother and father get through life together(unlike other families who only have one parent), you like what you see and wish you can share that same type of life style when you are old enough to start on your own family. You eventually grow up into your 20's to be a successful career women. At this age your doing what any other women would be doing which is partying and looking for that right somebody. So eventually you do meet a guy, your feeling him, hes feeling you, and obviously then you want to start taking it more serious, then he does(cuz guyz are soo sometimish these days). So later down the line you become pregnant, and you have to work like crazy to make sure you have enough money for when the baby comes. Your pregnant so at times your gonna feel tired right?, so you let your "boyfriend" use the car sometimes so he can do his thing you know (I wonder who hes bringing up in the car lol). One day your feeling hungry, but not just anything your having a craving for mcdonalds, your "boyfriend" has the car so you call him and ask him if he can stop and buy it for you on his way there, and he has the nerve to tell you he can't do it. You dont get mad you decide to suck it up and just drop it because you dont want to argue. Everything is goin good now for the next few months(I think)
You guys have the baby now everyone is happy. Hes happy, your more happier then ever.

You continue to let you "boyfriend" use the car while your home watching the baby with nothing to do. So one particular day, you let him use the car, but now you need to use it, so you call him up to see how long he is going to be, and he has the nerve to start yelling at you saying " what do you want, why are you running me down, give me some space" So you just quickly try to explain to him why you were calling(like is it not your car, HELLO!)
You start crying ALOT, and tell somebody about it, and the advice they give you is "Dont chase after no man!"
So once again you drop it, and let it slide, and continue loving this man.

What would you do in this situation?!?!?!

give me your answers and tomrrow I will finish what happens next.

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Lust or Love, Part 2

Does lust outweigh love when it comes to building a relationship? That’s a timeless question because all men want a woman that’s nurturing and providing to the household but still want someone that’s gonna get you going in the bedroom on a consistent basis.
Sadly, most of time, it doesn’t happen so a decision has to be made. Financial stability, or getting my brains fuc*ed out. Dilemmas… Dilemmas… Dilemmas…

Eyecandy with head game and no job, or Plain Patty with a 401K and benefits and can take care of the household. What’s more important, the package or the candy or do they both have to be appealing?

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I HOPE YOU ENJOYED, BECAUSE YOUR ENSEMBLE MUST BE ON POINT.